Week #77 – One year, six months: “Ride the wave!”
Tomorrow, March 5th, will be the one-year and six-month anniversary of Rob’s passing. I’m still learning a lot about grief…and yes, I’m finding it still comes in waves.
A dear friend had to remind me of my own advice this week. When faced with a big decision, she reminded me to “Ride the wave.” And so, I repeat this post from Week #25 — because I needed to hear it again, so maybe someone else does too!
“Ride the wave” became a sort of mantra during Rob’s funeral. I had written it on the back of his car in window chalk…because it was the last thing I said to him. He was fighting so hard. And having no words, no answers, no nothing for this perfectly healthy and beautiful young man with everything to live for…the only thing that came to mind was a surfing analogy.
But the words are not mine. They are wise words that came to us from an experienced screenwriter friend as we were riding the rapidly changing highs and lows of our first script going out to market. Our friend is a surfer too, and it was a language we immediately understood: you can’t control the outcome, just the effort. Skills, preparation, determination, focus…those were all on us. After that, just “ride the wave” the furthest and best you can.
It became a mantra for us when facing difficulties or challenges: “just ride the wave.”
Surfing was a language that Rob understood, too — and it can teach you a lot about life. You don’t just run out and jump in hoping for the best. There’s a lot to learn before you get that first ride — and there’s a lot more practice after that in order to do it even moderately well. Like most things Rob picked up, he took to it almost immediately — and enjoyed it immensely. And his happiness became our happiness, too! (You can ride waves of happiness, too!)
Are you — or someone you know — facing a wave right now?
Your Happyness Challenge for the Week Ahead: Like the waves of the ocean, we can’t always control the conditions in our lives. You can try to go over them, under them, around them…or get knocked down by them. Or you can RIDE THE WAVE. With a little practice and preparation…you can be ready to paddle in when the wave comes to you. Perfect conditions or not…we can only control our responses. The enjoyment and fulfillment is in the ride itself! (And it’s helpful to remember that wipe-outs are legendary, too!)
Whatever you’re facing…you’ve got this! Paddle in, pop up, and ride that wave!
Spread Happyness — share your thoughts in the comments. And RIDE THE WAVE!!!
3/4/16 by Grace Church
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