Monthly Archives: December 2019

Week #276 – CELEBRATE! (See you in 2020!)

New Year’s Eve 2005 (photo credit: Gina Buongiorno)

[Editor’s Note: Re-post Alert — because celebrating is never a bad idea!]

Week #276 – CELEBRATE! (See you in 2020!)

So…how was your 2019?

For many people…2019 was another challenging year. Health issues, death, divorce, job changes, financial problems, stressful news cycles…the list goes on and on.

Believe me…I know how it feels to want to kick an entire year to the curb. (Hell, maybe the whole decade!)

The end of the calendar year seems to be a natural time to look back and reflect on the highs, the lows, what happened, what went wrong, and how we can fix it in the new year ahead.

And with a new decade starting, even more so!

This is exactly why in January, I challenge everyone to look forward into 2019 — and start keeping track of the good stuff.

Because it’s hard to love your life when it’s so easy to look back and come up with all the bad things that happened. We have to, as Rob’s friend Rob Nicholson said in a Facebook post at the end of 2014:

“Keep moving forward and celebrate and revel in what we have!”

So I challenged you at the beginning of this year to, once again, look ahead…WAY ahead.

To December 31st of 2019.

By the way…that’s Tuesday!

And I asked — Where do you want to be next year at this time?

Do you remember your answer? If not, don’t feel bad. Because I said at that time that I knew one thing for sure — It would take REMINDERS.

If you were one of the ones that kept track of your achievements, high points, and happy moments — please remember to SHARE and CELEBRATE them with the ones you love!

If you didn’t keep track, don’t worry. Take some time this week to go back through your calendar, your emails, your phone — whatever it takes to come up with enough reminders of all that you accomplished and did right this year!

Because I promise you…you did! And there is probably a lot to CELEBRATE!

Your Happyness Challenge for the week ahead: CELEBRATE the completion of another year — and another trip around the sun! SHARE your successes with others — and ENCOURAGE others to do the same! There will be plenty of time to look ahead and set new goals, focus on new targets, and dream new dreams for the year ahead. For this weekend — look back, and find things to LOVE about 2019! (And the decade behind!)

Bonus Challenge: Don’t count on yourself to remember everything about the new year going forward! Make a plan to curate the wins just as much as the losses so that you have a complete inventory come December 31st of 2020. Come up with a system for recording your achievements, successes, highlights, and otherwise happy times THROUGHOUT the new year! The most obvious way is to keep a dated list — in a journal, on your computer, via email, or on your phone — where you take time each day to review your activities and take note of anything special or significant. I keep a running list by date and habitually recount the day’s activities. To be honest, most days it’s pretty mundane — but the habit assures that when something notable happens I’m going to capture and remember it. Here are some other ideas from last year’s post:

Gratitude Tree — write what you’re grateful for on little shapes and fill an inside tree or wall mural up throughout the year (works in classrooms, too!).

Photo-journal — use cell-phone photos in a specific file or on Instagram to keep track of accomplishments. Or print them out to create a physical album you can flip through.

The Joy Jar or Happyness Jar! The idea is simple: you start on January 1st with an empty jar in a prominent location in your home — and you start dropping notes in it throughout the year about things that went well, things that make you happy, things you’re grateful for, achieved, or accomplished. At the end of the year you have a personal collection of happy memories to review — or immediate access throughout the year when you need a lift to face a challenge! One woman even collaged them on a monthly basis as a type of word-cloud to record as a journal.

The possibilities are endless — but the idea is always the same: make it a point to collect the good stuff! Because we need more of that. More focus on the wins. More focus on what’s right. More focus on loving our lives — so that we can live our lives more fully.

Spread Happyness — love your life, THIS year AND next! (CELEBRATE and ENCOURAGE others to do the same!)

12/27/19 by Grace Church
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grace@spreadhappyness.com

Week #275 – Have a “Happy Heart-mas!”

“Happy Heart-mas!” (photo credit: Grace Church)

Week #275 – Have a “Happy Heart-mas!”

Greetings Happyness Tribe!

The holidays arrive in full force this week! So Blessed Solstice, Happy Hanukkah, and Merry Christmas to you all!

Once again, I’ve been keeping up with my own “Gratitude Challenge” in the days between Thanksgiving and New Year’s. It’s always a great way for me to ensure I’m keeping my own heart happy during one of the most busy and stressful times of the year.

(And it makes for great “memories” to pop up in my Facebook feed!)

As I wrote during the first Gratitude Challenge (Week #119), keeping focused on finding one thing a day to be grateful for actually primes me for keeping an eye out ALL DAY for the things that I appreciate, the things that are going well, and the things that make my heart happy.

Whatever holidays you are celebrating, we’re about to enter one of the most stressful weeks of the year.  If you are grieving a loss, a relocation, or a big life change — it may be even more stressful than usual. Before you focus on trying to make others happy (or expecting others to magically return the favor) — take some time to figure out what makes YOUR own heart happy!

Which reminded me again of this challenge from Week #14 — just a few weeks after Rob passed (and worth repeating):

Your Happyness Challenge for the week ahead: Have a “Happy Heart-mas!”  It will be easy to focus on the things that go wrong this holiday week. Instead, pay attention to what makes your heart happy!  It may be as simple as your silly niece or nephew (or cat or dog), words to an old song that take you back, an irreverent or inappropriate joke you can share only with dear friend, or a quiet star-lit night…or maybe it’s a bigger challenge like limiting your time to only people you enjoy, getting that extra sleep your body is craving, or saying no to something you honestly don’t want to do.  Take note of the moments when you feel your heart lift and your body relax.  Keep a list of what makes you happy…and check it.  Twice! (And then do more of THAT!)

It may be the difference between naughty and nice this holiday week!

Spread Happyness — tell me again, what makes YOUR heart happy?

I wish each and every one of you a “Happy Heart-mas!”

12/20/19 by Grace Church
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grace@spreadhappyness.com

Week #274 – Take a Pass! (Say NO to something this week!)

Week #274 – Take a Pass (Say NO to something this week!)

Greetings Happyness Tribe!

I had a new post in mind for this week about reflecting on the year (and decade) past — but a sick pup has had me sidetracked.

And you know what?  It reminded me of a post I wrote last year this time — and the fact that there are a whole lot of you also, one week before Christmas, who couldn’t possibly add one more thing to your list!

And so, I’m repeating that post — and encouraging you to join me in taking a pass!  Cross something off your list — not because it’s done, but because it’s not going to get done. (Or maybe because you didn’t really want to do it anyway.)

This is a big act of rebellion — especially for us “old reliables” who always seem to meet the deadline, show up, or fulfill the obligation even when we don’t want to.

It can be scary — because if we aren’t someone that people can count on, then who are we?

The answer: Big-Hearted, Well-Intended, Happyness Spreaders — who need to take a pass this week!  😉

Your Happyness Challenge for the Week Ahead: TAKE A PASS!  Consider this permission to say no, play hookie, skip that thing, call and cancel (well ahead of time of course, with regrets).  Bonus points for being okay with someone else who is doing the same!!!  As I heard someone say recently, “disappointment isn’t deadly.” It’s uncomfortable — yes. But so is over-extending ourselves to the point of exhaustion.   

(I’ll be joining you by NOT writing a long post this week!)

Spread Happyness — “Take a Pass” this week!  (And let me know how you do!)

12/13/19 by Grace Church
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grace@spreadhappyness.com

Week #273 – Make it a December to Remember: CELEBRATE!!! (Early…and often!)

Week #273 – Make it a December to Remember: CELEBRATE!!! (Early…and often!)

Greetings Tribe — and Happy December!!!

It’s no secret that we are in the middle of the shortest possible holiday shopping season (I wrote about this on Week #267) — and I know many of you are feeling it!

And in a few weeks, as the shopping and shipping push comes to an end — you know what’s coming next?

NEW YEAR’S PLANNING!

And this isn’t just any old new year…we’re looking at a whole NEW DECADE ahead!

If it hasn’t started already, soon we’ll be inundated with planners, programs, and systems for making the year ahead more positive, more productive…maybe even more prolific or profitable.

And you know what will be missing in the middle of it all?

Celebration!

That’s right…actually taking time to commemorate and honor where we’re standing right now.

And so…I’m stealing a bit from my year-end post to remind you to celebrate. NOW!

If you’ve kept track of your achievements, high points, and happy moments — now is a great time to REVIEW, SHARE, and CELEBRATE them with the ones you love!

And if you didn’t keep track, don’t worry. Take some time now before this crazy month really takes off to go back through your calendar, your emails, your phone — whatever it takes to come up with enough reminders of all that you accomplished and did right this year!

Because I promise you…you did! And there is probably a lot to CELEBRATE!

Your Happyness Challenge for the Week Ahead: CELEBRATE!!! (Early…and often!) You don’t have to wait until New Year’s Eve! Take time this month to reflect on your journey this past year (or decade). Take stock of your achievements, notice your growth, and make a list of your successes. Then SHARE it with others — and ENCOURAGE others to do the same! There will be plenty of time to look ahead and set new goals, focus on new targets, and dream new dreams for the year (and decade) ahead.

For this weekend — take a look back, and find things to LOVE about 2019!

Spread Happyness — and tell me, what are you celebrating this year?

12/6/19 by Grace Church
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grace@spreadhappyness.com