Monthly Archives: April 2018

Week #189 – “Heavy on my mind…” (Who are you thinking of?)

“Thinking of you…” (photo credit: Grace Church)

Week #189 – Repost: “Heavy on my mind…” (Who are you thinking of?)

As I mentioned last week, I’m working on some new things…and on deadline for some others.  So here’s a flash back to Week #33 because he’s heavy on my mind again this week.  

Just about four years ago now…everything was about to change.

While there’s always a lot of talk about the big anniversaries and holidays, the last days of April bring up a different kind of anniversary…the first x-rays, the first admittance to Sloan, the first mention of the “C” word.

As we stood in Rob’s hospital room four years ago, we were in shock.  “This is crazy…” he said more than once in disbelief.  “How can this be?”  Who knew what the next few months would bring…where it would take us…how it would bring us together…and ultimately take him away.

One thing’s for sure…he was on my mind every single day.  And I made sure I took the time to let him know it.

There’s a lot of criticism over our dependence on digital communication these days…but I’ve seen ways that it can help people who otherwise couldn’t possibly stay connected under intense pressure or circumstances.  A quick little text, a Facebook post, a short email, or even just a voicemail that doesn’t require a call back…these are all ways to let someone know you are thinking of them.  Just thinking of them…period.  Not expecting anything in return.

Your Happyness Challenge for the Week Ahead: Who’s heavy on your mind?  Take time…right now…to send them these three little words: “Thinking of you.”

That’s it.

Just three little words.

Spread Happyness — and see where this takes you!  Share your thoughts in the comments!

(And PS: I’m thinking of YOU!)

4/27/18 by Grace Church
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grace@spreadhappyness.com

Week #188 – Are you an outlet — or a plug?

Week #188 – Are you an outlet — or a plug?

I’m working on some new stories — so this week I’m going way, way back to Week #6!

In the weeks immediately following Rob’s death I heard story after story about how he influenced, affected, touched, or otherwise blessed one person after another. When you hear all these stories at once, you wonder how one individual could spend that much time with other people — in addition to a full time job, various personal interests, and logging 50,000 miles on his car in a year!

But Rob was full of energy — pure energy. As a result, he was an outlet to most people who crossed his path — they could come to him, plug in, and get happiness. Was it a gift — or a choice? Certainly Rob was blessed with an outgoing personality.  But he also did things in his life that assured he’d have plenty of time and energy to fill himself up and fuel his own interests. He chose to eat well, exercise, sleep, drink water, say no to things he didn’t want to do, step away from unnecessary drama and distractions, and make room only for the things that lit him up. I believe that because he tended to himself FIRST — he had plenty of time/attention/love/encouragement/and insane goofiness to share with everyone he met. (Dogs, cats, parrots, snakes, butterflies and armadillos included!)

How are you doing?  Are you an outlet of “pure energy” that others can plug into — or do you find yourself looking to others to fill you up?

Your Happyness Challenge for the Week Ahead: Are you an outlet — or a plug?  Do others look to you for energy — or do you find yourself looking to others to plug in?  Brainstorm a quick list of things you can do to fill yourself up FIRST — then pick ONE and follow through for yourself TODAY.  Remember to charge yourself up first — then get out there and let your PURE ENERGY light someone else’s day!

SPREAD HAPPYNESS — and share the things that fill you up!!!

4/20/18 by Grace Church
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grace@spreadhappyness.com

Week #187 – Repost: Happyness in Action (Take the Giving Challenge — with Stephanie L. Jones)

(Used with permission.)

Week #187 – Repost: Happyness in Action (Take the Giving Challenge — with Stephanie L. Jones)

Greetings Happyness Tribe!

It was such a thrill to meet Stephanie Jones in person on Monday — I just had to repost her story of Happyness in Action with you again this week!

Stephanie L. Jones is known on the web as “The Giving Gal.”  What started in 2011 as a month-long challenge to give one gift every day for a month — turned into a 522-day journey into the art of giving and ultimately grew into a book launch, speaking, and consulting gig.  Stephanie’s book, The Giving Challenge: 40 Days to a More Generous Life launched in January of 2017 — and her weekly “Giving Challenges” have Spread Happyness to countless recipients, making her a great nomination for Happyness in Action!

And it all started on New Year’s Day!

Stephanie shared her story with me: “In December 2010 I read the book 29 Gifts and on January 1, 2011, I started on my giving journey.  I intended to give a gift every day for a month. That turned into a year, and 522 days later I was still giving.”  (You can view a list of her 500+ days of giving on her website!)

“I blogged a little during my giving journey and people kept saying, “You should write a book.”  I thought they were crazy.  I wasn’t good at writing; I hate grammar and had no idea how to write a book.”

But that didn’t stop her!  

Stephanie started researching how to write a book — and reaching out to people she knew who could give her advice.  “I knew nothing about writing and publishing a book and I didn’t know anyone who had written a book.  I was flying blind and making a lot of mistakes.”

The book was originally going to be titled “365 Days, My Year of Giving.”  Stephanie’s plan was to go back through her blog and figure out what stories to work on.  “The biggest challenge was not knowing what I didn’t know.  Spending money that I didn’t need to spend.  Lots of lessons learned.”  But Stephanie kept writing.

And she continued to give!

“In Spring 2015 I found my first editor and she was the one that suggested 40 stories and came  up with The Giving Challenge name.  But even after working with her, trying to cut stories took time.  I continued to give gifts so something fun would happen and I’d swap out an old story for a new one.”

Stephanie started to connect and get involved in various groups on Facebook…and started to meet people who could help, and they did!

“The book took me four years to publish.  Honestly the pressure I felt to get it done and out there is what kept me going.  Every time I’d quit, and that was like 100 times, someone would give me encouragement, say the right thing, and I’d get up and start again.  It was really obedience to God continuing to whisper in my ear to get the book done.  He laid this on my heart and kept showing up and put people in front of me that could help me.”

What kept her going?

“I struggled with it (the book) up until December 15, 2016 when I was sending final edits to the publisher.  I would take one step forward and then another hurdle would pop up.  At every hurdle, even though I was so close, I wanted to throw my hands in the air and quit.  I saw people around me putting out books quickly and I wondered why I was having so many challenges.  But now I have a great story because every setback improved the book.”

I asked her about that linchpin moment when she realized the book was really going to happen.  That moment where the struggle gave way to the finish line.

“When the book arrived in the mail, that is when I knew I’d crossed the finish line.  It was an overwhelming moment.  I have it on video and I’m a hot mess!”

What’s next?

“Now there are 1000 more finish lines.  Just because the book is out doesn’t mean the journey has ended, nor have the struggles.”  Stephanie’s focus turned to promoting the book, lining up speaking engagements, and beginning the next project — all while working her full time job!

“Time is the hardest.  I work full time for a Fortune 100 company and have a very demanding job.  But following my passion made me do my full-time job better.  I’m happier.  I’ve found even though I don’t work the crazy hours for the company that I used to because I thought hours equalled success…I’m getting more done in less time and I’m more productive.”

Oh…and more giving!

“The easiest part is I don’t mind the work I have to put into all the follow-up I’ve had after the book.  I work a lot of early mornings, late evenings, and weekends.  I love it!  I love connecting with new people.  I love the opportunities that are becoming available now that I’m on the right path.”

Which is how I met Stephanie!

As many of you know, in March of 2016 I picked up and moved my entire life across country in about sixteen days.  By June, I was still disorganized and floundering — and desperate to get my bearings.  I posted in a group looking for ideas to re-focus and re-set my goals for the second half of the year.  Stephanie was the only person to respond — and then she took a step further and reached out to me personally via direct message.  She introduced herself — and offered an hour of her coaching time.  My world hasn’t been the same since!

“Giving is a part of my life and I continue to give daily.  It’s a habit that I don’t think about, it’s who I am: The Giving Gal!  I give and expect nothing in return, but giving changed my life, and the more I give, the more incredible things happen in my life.”

What about you, Happyness Tribe?  Are ready to take The Giving Challenge?!

Your Happyness Challenge for the week ahead: TAKE THE GIVING CHALLENGE!  Join Stephanie’s Facebook Group (facebook.com/GivingGal) and take the weekly challenges she posts!  You can follow her on social media, sign up for email updates at her website (GivingGal.com), or read the book and take The Giving Challenge: 40 Days to a More Generous Life on your own or with a group!  Whatever you do, be sure to connect with Stephanie.  “I always love to connect and learn about people’s dreams and how I can help.”

“Giving and serving others is Happyness.” (Stephanie L. Jones)

Spread Happyness — take The Giving Challenge and discover your own source of Happyness!

4/13/17 by Grace Church
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grace@spreadhappyness.com

(Thanks to Stephanie L. Jones for taking time out of her busy schedule to share her story with me last year — and to meet me in person this week!  To learn more about Stephanie, sign up for her emails, or purchase The Giving Challenge: 40 Days to a More Generous Life, check out her website at www.GivingGal.com — and follow Stephanie on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest!)

Week #186 – Notice the color of someone’s eyes!

Week #186 – Notice the color of someone’s eyes!

I heard a great tip this week and I wanted to pass it on…because it seems to have made my interactions with people a little happier!

The tip was to notice the color of someone’s eyes when you’re talking to them.

Now…notice that I used the word “notice.”  Not gaze, or stare, scrutinize, or even comment…because that would be creepy (especially if it’s a stranger)!

Just notice.

There is tons of research on body language and its overwhelming importance in overall communication…and eye contact is no small part of that.  It can signal our level of interest and intention, anger or compassion, confidence or doubt.

(And yes, I’m aware of cultural differences that might make eye contact inappropriate or unintentionally aggressive.  Use good judgment!)

But mainly, when you look someone in the eye, you affirm their existence.  You let them know you see them…and as the saying goes, it’s good to be seen!

And one way to do that is to simply take note of their eye color.

Your Happyness Challenge for the week ahead: Notice the color of someone’s eyes!  As you go through your week, make a point of noticing (again, I repeat, no-tic-ing) the color of someone’s eyes.  Start with your own family…the ones you are most intimate with.  Can you describe from memory all the flecks and splashes you see on a daily basis?  If not, you might be missing something.  Revel in those glimmers and gleams…and let people know you see them!

“The eyes are a mirror to the soul…”

Spread Happyness — and share your thoughts in the comments!

4/6/18 by Grace Church
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grace@spreadhappyness.com