Week #335 – The Hard Work of Happyness
Greetings Happyness Tribe!
I’m not gonna lie…this blog has been a challenge lately! And it’s not just Happyness that’s been hard…everything seems difficult. Changing schedules, roller coaster restrictions, worry over friends who are struggling (like, really struggling), not to mention upheaval at large. It’s enough to make me wonder if I was ever on the right side of this!
And as Rob’s birthday came around again yesterday (the seventh one since he died) …and I struggled with what to write, I thought to myself:
Why is Happyness so hard?
Which reminded me of my own words…my own post. The echo of my own voice coming back to me from Week #260…all the way back to the very beginning:
It’s not easy to smile, wave big and say hello like you mean it when you’re grumpy, or sad, or struggling.
(And that’s just Week #1 and #2!)
It’s not easy to reach out, to lend a hand, to mentor or encourage someone when your world feels like it’s falling apart.
It’s not easy to plan ahead, to set goals, or to try something new when your heart has been broken by disappointment…again and again and yet again.
Shoot…NOTHING has been easy in this year-of-all-pandemic-years!
I know that Happyness seems simple sometimes…maybe even too simple (even to me). But let me be the first to tell you, it’s not easy. It’s hard work. And it is SO necessary! Because the reality is, some days (or even years) the world gets the better of us…
…and other times, Happyness wins!
How do I know? I started this website on September 8th…THREE DAYS after my brother took his last, labored breath in a small, quiet hospital room in New York City.
At that time, this is what I wrote…and this is what I believe to this day (it’s still the contents of my “About” page):
SpreadHappyness.com was created in honor of my beloved brother and best friend, Robert Church Jr., who died on Friday, September 5th after a short battle with cancer. He was 40 years old.
It is my wish to identify and carry forward (through weekly blogposts/challenges) the torch of Rob’s legacy — which I believe was his natural ability to spread happiness to anyone who was lucky enough to cross his path. If you knew Rob, you already know this to be true. And I bet you have a story all your own about something Rob said or did — maybe even 20 years ago — that continues to make you happy today! I want to hear those stories!!!
If you didn’t get to meet Rob, let me introduce you. I pledge to deliver a little dose of him to you every Friday morning (at least) via this blog. Because cancer is not the only thing that can spread. Happiness can take on a life of it’s own too! It will be up to us to carry his light forward by sharing our stories, living his lessons, and spreading happiness to those who are now lucky enough to cross our paths!
With great love and affection for you all…
Grace (aka “Rob’s sister!”)
So if you didn’t get to meet Rob…let me introduce you (again)! And wish him a Happy Heavenly Birthday while you’re at it! 🙂
Your Happyness Challenge for the Week Ahead: Get to work!!! Spread Happyness is not about being Happy. It’s about “Spreading” Happyness by making choices that uplift and elevate others…not tear them down. When you feel the world getting to you this week or this month — or better yet, when you see it getting to someone else — roll up your sleeves and get to work. There is Happyness to Spread!!!
To life! To love!! To Happyness!!!
Spread Happyness — please share your thoughts in the comments!
2/12/21 by Grace Church
© Grace Church
grace@spreadhappyness.com